Reversible psychology, kana psychology kubva kune zvakasiyana, ndiro izwi rinosanganisira kubuda kwekusavhiringidza zvakananga kwemunhu kune chikonzero chekuita, kuparidzira kana dzidzo. Iyi nzira yakasiyana yekushandura inobatsira zvikuru vana, vechidiki uye avo avo vari vapanduki kubva pane zvakasikwa uye vanorwira rusununguko uye simba kune chikamu chikuru kunze kwekuda kwechirevo.
Zvakaitika sei?
Iyo nyanzvi yeyi pfungwa yekukurudzira ndeye Michael Apter, uyo pamwe chete nevamwe vashandi kwenguva yakareba vakadzidza maitiro ekutungamira uye vakapa tsanangudzo yehuviri hwemunhu. Maererano naMichael, panguva imwecheteyo munhu haakwanisi kunzwa chido chekuita zviito zviviri zvakasiyana. Somuenzaniso, hazvina maturo kubvunza mumwe munhu kuti abatsirwe, ndiani ari mumatambudziko, nokuti zvinetso zvemumwe munhu ndezvechipiri panguva ino. Kana kuti muenzaniso unotevera: muboka rakavharwa munhu anoda kuve chikamu chacho, kubatana nevamwe kana kusarudza kuzvimirira. Zvisinei, zvichibva pane zvakakosha zvepfungwa dzakadzoka zvakare, munhu anogona kukurumidza kubva kune imwe nyika kuenda kune imwe, uye pamwe chete.
Kuti tibate zvakanaka, chinhu chikuru ndechokusarudza nguva yakakodzera uye kuita zviitiko zvakasiyana-siyana kuita kuti munhu achinje kuchinzvimbo chaidiwa. Kuchinja kwepfungwa mune zvehukama kunoshandiswa munzvimbo dzakasiyana-siyana, kubva mune zvematongerwo enyika nekushambadzira kune hupenyu hwezuva nezuva. Zvakawanikwa zvaro zvinoshandiswa nevanhau. Somuenzaniso, tichifunga nzira dzekudzoka kwepfungwa, vashandi vemakambani ekupikisa vanopa mazano pamusoro pezvinoitwa nevateereri kutengesa, zvinoratidza kuonekwa kwekuramba uye kusateerera zvakaipa.
Reversible psychology pakati pemurume nemukadzi
Zvechokwadi, muhukama pakati pepabondewo hazviiti kunze kwezvakakosha zvepfungwa dzekudzoka. Apo mukadzi achida chimwe chinhu kubva kumurume, asi ane chokwadi chokuti chikumbiro chakananga chichakonzera kusagadzikana kwekutaura, inotarisa kune imwe nzira. Somuenzaniso, achida kupedza nevanodikanwa vhiki rese, asi achiziva kuti akanga achienda kunobata hove, kuvhima kana mune sauna ane shamwari, anomuudza chimwe chinhu chakadai: "Iwe zvakare hausi kuzogara kumba kwevhiki rese, asi ini ndinofara ndinoshandisa nguva yekukurukura neshamwari yangu yepamusoro uye kuenda kusikukibhu. " Murume achava nechido chechisikigo chekugara pamba, sezvo asingakwanisi kana asingadi kuti waanoda aende kuchikwata.
Unoshuva kuroorwa nemusarudzo wekusarudza kwako, haufaniri kumurega azive kuti iwe unofarira zvikuru izvi. Pane zvinopesana, munhu anofanira kuramba achitaura kuti zvakanaka zvakadini, kusununguka kwehukama huri nyore uye kuti zvakanaka sei vamwe varume. Murume-muridzi haazoregi kurwisana uye achaita zvose kuti ave nechokwadi chokuti mukadzi wake ndeyeiye chete. Uye saizvozvo mune zvose, asi zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti maitiro ekudzoka kwepfungwa mukubata nemunhu haashandi nguva dzose. Izvozvo zvinogona kunge zvisinganzwisisiki kana kuti zvakasiyana zvakasiyana- siyana zvekuchengetedza kuti zvipinde muurangariro urwu.
Mabhuku paRevversible Psychology
Chaizvoizvo, bhuku rokutanga ndiro basa raMichael Apter pachake "Kunze kweunhu hunhu. Kudzokorora pfungwa yekukurudzira ". Muverengi achakwanisa kudzidza pfungwa huru dzepfungwa itsva yepfungwa, kuwana ruzivo rwakakwanisika kune iyi nheyo. Mumapeji ebhuku rake munyori anotsanangura kuti nei munhu achigara achichinja uye achizvipikisa. Rimwe bhuku raEric Berne "Vanhu vanotamba mitambo." Mune basa rake, munyori anoongorora hukama hwevanhu pakati pehupenyu hwemunhu mukuru, mwana nemubereki. Anotenda kuti panguva dzakasiyana-siyana munhu anogona kuva mune rimwe rematatu aya uye, zvichienderana neizvi, kuvaka hukama nevamwe vanhu.