Mubvunzo, iyo iyo yakaoma kwazvo kupa mhinduro yakajeka, inotambudzwa nezvizvarwa zvinopfuura imwe. Chii chinonyanya kusava nehanya kana ruvengo? Zvechokwadi, zvose zvinoshungurudza manzwiro evanhu, asi, sezvamunoziva, ruvengo runokanganisa manzwiro uye kuzviremekedza kwevanhu, nepo kusava nehanya kunouraya, zvinoreva here kuti kusava nehanya kunotyisa?
Saka, chii chisina hanya? Kusava nehanya ndiko kusavhiringidza kubatanidzwa pamwe chete mukuchinja kwehupenyu hwako uye mukuchinja muupenyu hwehupenyu. Vanhu vasina hanya vasina ruzivo rwevamwe vanhu, havakwanisi uye vanogara vari mukutenda.
Kune zviratidzo zvizhinji zvekusatenda, asi ruvengo runoratidzwa chete nekunzwa kwakasimba kunodzivirira kwete chete chinhu chinokonzera asi asiwo anochibudisa.
Zvinokonzera kusava nehanya
Dambudziko rekusada hanya riri mumunhu pachake, mukutuka kwake uye nechido chake chokuzvidzivirira kubva pakurwadziwa kunokonzerwa. Sezvo mutemo, munhu anotanga kuve asina hanya nehupenyu semhando yekuchengetedza, saka, anoedza kudziviririra pachake kubva pakuzvidya mwoyo nekusava nemanzwiro.
Chido chokudzivirira kubva panyika yakaipa, iyo yakaramba kakawanda uye yakagumbura manzwiro ake, inotungamirira kukuti munhu asingazivi anotanga kuratidzira kusafarira. Asi izvi zvakazara nemigumisiro. Kazhinji, nenguva, kusava nehanya kunowanikwa mukati memunhu, uye hazvizviratidzi mukusava nehanya nehupenyu hwehupenyu, asiwo mukusava nehanya nezvako.
Zvikonzero zvekusazvida iwe pachako kungava kudhakwa, kudhakwa kwezvinodhaka, chirwere chepfungwa, mishonga kana kukanganisa kwepfungwa. Nzira dzenguva pfupi dzokusava nehanya dzinorapwa nyore nyore, sezvo dzinowanzobuda nekuda kwekumanikidzwa kwakasimba kana kusava ne caress uye rudo.
Kusatenda kwemurume
Mubvunzo unonyanya kunetseka nevakadzi, chii chikonzero chokusava nehanya muhukama? Uye nei kusava nehanya kwomunhu kune mukadzi aimbove-anodiwa achimuka?
Chinhu chokutanga chokuyeuka mumamiriro ezvinhu aya ndechokuti kusava nehanya kwemunhu hakusi kunze kwese. Sezvo mutemo, unoratidzika pamwe chete nekunyadziswa uye kutsamwa, nehupenyu husina kugadzikana hwepabonde, uye kunyange pasina zvachose. Murume haazombosiyi mudzimai wake anodikanwa, uyo anomuronga ari panhovo. Zvichida chikonzero chekusava nehanya kwemurume wake chaiva nhau kudivi. Chero mamiriro ezvinhu, kana mumwe wevakaroorana akatanga kunzwa asina hanya kune mumwe, zvakakosha kuti uise pfungwa dzako pane iwe pachako, asi taura nemumwe wako. Zvichida, chikonzero chekusava nehanya chaiva chimwe chekurwisana kwemhuri, iyo inogona kugadziriswa nekutaura pamusoro payo. Zvisinei, kana imwe imwe hafu yako isingada kuteerera chero chinhu, rega kushanduka kuchinja muukama hwako, zvichida inguva yekubva.
Nyaya inonyatsozivikanwa yeA.P. Chekhov munyaya ino inoti: "Kusina hanya kuora mwoyo kwemweya, kufa kwekukurumidza" uye hazvisi nyore kurwisana nayo, asi ruvengo kungova nemanzwiro ekuti zvakakura hazvirevi uye hazvina maturo.
Kana mumwe wevadiwa vako akatarisana nechinetso chokusava nehanya, usamira pamativi. Zvibvunze mubvunzo uyu: "Zvaungaita sei nekusava nehanya?". Mubatsire kugadzirisa dambudziko iri remukati, tsanangura kuti hupenyu hwevanhu hahugoneki pasina caress, kutarisira, kunzwisisa uye rudo, nokuti mukuvapo kwavo kuti varambe vasina hanya hazvigoneki.