Refuseniks ... Chimwe chezvinetso zvinosuruvarisa zvevanhu vemazuva ano. Maziso evana vakasiyiwa vanosuruvara zvikuru, shure kwezvose, vabereki vakafunga kuti kusimudza uye kuvatarisira kwaizova mutoro mukuru muupenyu.
Nei vana vakasiyiwa?
Zvinotendwa kuti vana maruva ehupenyu. Asi maonero evamwe vanhu akasiyana zvakananga: nokuti ivo vanotarisira mwana vanova mutoro unoregererwa. Sei ichi ichibuda nenzira iyi? Chii chinoita kuti vabereki vaite chiito chisina kufanira uye vakasiya mwana munharaunda yehurumende? Kazhinji kacho, mwana asingadiwi anoberekerwa mumhuri isina kunaka, umo murume nemudzimai vari kuita zvakaipa, kureva, vanonwa kana kushandisa madhiragi. Zvinonzwisisika, havana nguva yakakwana yekuita nevana vavo.
Kazhinji, vanaamai vanosiya vana kana vakawana chirwere chakakomba mumuviri wavo, mupfungwa dzavo kana chirema mune chitarisiko. Vana vakadaro vanoda kuchengetwa kwakakwana, kurapa kunodhura, nguva yose isina nguva. Haasi mukadzi wose achasarudza pakuzvitsaurira upenyu hwake kutarisira mwana akaremara kana mwana asina kukwana, varwere vane chirwere cheperesia, Down's syndrome, chirwere chemwoyo chakakomba, nezvimwewo.
Saka hazvisi zvisizvo kuti mukadzi abereke nekusiya mwana mucherachera nekuda kwekusaziva kuti achakwanisa kuvepo hupenyu huripo hwevose vari vaviri. Kunyanya kana pakutanga baba vakakanda mwana uye rubatsiro kubva kwaari kuti arege kumirira. Hurumende inotsigirwa vanaamai vatsva inoshaikwa.
Kazhinji vana vakasiyiwa muimba yekuberekwa vanoonekwa mumisha inochengeterwa nherera nekuda kwekuti havagamuchiri uye vanovhiringidza naamai vavo. Saka, vana vekuchikoro vanoramba vana nekusimbiswa kwevabereki vavo, avo vane hupenyu hwavo hwose mberi kwavo, nenzira yekutadza "inotenderera" vakadzi vasina kuroora avo vanoda kuronga hupenyu hwavo. Dzimwe nguva vanaamai havagoni kurera vana nekuda kwehosha yavo yakakomba.
Mugumo wevana vakasiyiwa
Hazvigoneki kuti pachava nemunhu munyika yedu anoda kuidzidziswa kwete zvake, asi mumusha wevana. Ruzhinji runoziva hupenyu hunooma hwevana vanoregererwa nevabereki: hupenyu panguva yekuchengetedza, kushungurudzwa uye kuvhiringidzwa kwevadzidzisi, kazhinji kusagadzikana kwezvokudya uye zvipfeko zvakaipa. Vana vakadaro vanokura vakavhiringidzwa munyika yose. Uye chikonzero cheizvi hachirevi mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma eherera. Ava vana vakatsamwa, pakutanga, amai, avo vakanga vasingadi.
Havasi vana vose vakanyemwerera nemukana wekugadziriswa kana kugamuchirwa nevabereki vakakwana avo vanogona kusungunusa ice iri mumoyo wemwana. Zvinosuruvarisa, kazhinji vanoedza kutora vana vakasiyiwa kuti vakura uye vadzidzise kubva pakuberekwa.
Mune ramangwana, mafungiro akadaro anodzivirira nherera yakakura inovaka mhuri. Uyezve, vana vakasiyiwa nevana havazivi kuti chii, nokuti havana kumboona muenzaniso.
Vachiri kuyaruka vakasiya nherera vanonetseka kugadzirisa kuhupenyu hwevanhu vakuru, nekuda kwekushaiwa kwekukurudzira, nokuti vakakurudzirwa kuita (kudzidza, kushanda) kubva pasi pe "tsvimbo".
Maererano nehuwandu, vashomanana vakakwanisa kuwana basa muupenyu. Vakawanda vevakabva kune dzimwe nherera vanopara mhosva, vanova doro kana kuzviuraya. Kukura vana vakasiyiwa kazhinji vanotungamirira chimiro chinopesana
Mifananidzo yakajeka yakadaro yehupenyu hwevana vakasiyiwa, zvichida, ichaita spodvignut kuti uite chiito chakanaka. Zvechokwadi, iyi haisi mvumo yekugamuchira mwana. Asi iwe unogona kubatsira vana kuti vasaomeswa nemweya. Hazvisiko kupfeka zvokudya kana kupfeka. Ingovapa iwo ushamwari!