Yakawanda yemhuri yemhuri: mudzimai akanaka uye akachenjera, vana, basa uye zvinhu zvose zvinoratidzika zvakanaka, uye mweya unorarama mumweya, asi ... pasinei nezvinhu izvi zvose zvoupenyu, anenge mhuri dzose dzakadaro dzine dambudziko - vamwe varume dzimwe nguva vanotendeuka "vakasiyiwa". Nhasi, vashoma vanhu vachashamiswa nemamiriro ezvinhu aya. Uye varume ivo pachavo vanoshandiswa kutaura pamusoro pemamiriro ezvinhu aya nemashoko okuti "wekusimba wekusimbisa anotsigira imba." Asi nei munhu achifanira kuva tenzikadzi, kana zvakadaro zvose zvakanaka uye zvinoshamisa? Ngatiedzei kunzwisisa nyaya iyi.
Sei varume vakaroorana vachingobata zvisungo?
Kana iwe uchingopinda munhoroondo, unogona kuyeuka kuti mitaka inongova mhuka chaiyo. Nhasi kure nemadzitateguru edu vakagovera bhokisi nevakadzi vazhinji panguva imwe chete uye izvi zvaive zvakakosha kune dzinza rose, sezvo vakadzi vazhinji vakapa zvivimbiso zvakawanda zvekuti vana vaizokura zvakakura. Mushure memazana emakore akawanda, chiitiko ichi chekupona kwemajeri chakasara mumhuka chete. Zvisinei, mumarume izvi nzvimbo iyi yakagadzirirwa pahutano hwemhuka.
Kana iri mitemo yetsika, nhasi havasi vose vanogona kukuudza kuti nei vanhu vachitanga vada. Vazhinji vamiririri vevarume havasi kuziva zvavanofanira kutaura. Zvisinei, kune zvikonzero zvinongororwa kwete chete nechomukati chimiro chechimiro uye chido chokukunda pane rudo rwakatarisana.
Sei varume vachitarisa madzishe?
Basa revanhu munharaunda rave richisvika nguva yakawanda nehuwandu hwemamwe maonero. Haafaniri kuchema, anofanira kunge akasimba, kutsigira mhuri, kumupa zvokudya, kuwana mari, nezvimwewo. Nokudaro, zvinosvika pakuti kunyange munhu haagoni kuratidza manzwiro ake. Iye, rusununguko-rudo, nguva dzose anofanirwa kutamba basa rebaba vane hanya vemhuri uye murume akatendeka akanaka. Zvisinei, kunyange kana pasina kukakavadzana nemudzimai uye mumhuri zvinhu zvose zvakanaka, izvi zvinoratidzika "mufambiro" unoita kuti munhu atsigire uye zvinetso zveutano. Uyezve, mune dzimwe nguva, hupenyu hwemhuri hwevarume hunotanga nguva yekuchinja kubva paudiki kusvika pauduku (23-30 makore), uye kwete vose vakagadzirira kusiya nzira yekare yeupenyu mukufarira mhuri. Vanhu vazhinji havawanzooni shamwari, kuita mabasa epamba, kuenda kune hama, uye madzimai havafariri kunyanya kufamba vakatendeka mugaraji nemabhazi. Asi mumwe munhu anoda kuratidza simba ravo uye kukosha. Pano pane pane zvakasiyana-siyana "enda kuruboshwe".
Asi nei murume akaroora amaikadzi, pane zvimwe zvingasarudzwa pano:
- mukana wekunzwazve zvakare sejaya muhukuru hwehupenyu hwake. Ndicho chikonzero varume vakwegura kazhinji vanochera vasikana vaduku;
- mukana wokudurura mweya nemanzwiro ako. Ichi ndicho chikonzero chakakurumbira icho munhu anoda kubva kuna amaikadzi. Mushure mezvose, iye acharamba achimugamuchira nematadzo ake ose, kutsigira uye kuteerera, zvakasiyana nemudzimai wake, iye chete anoita izvo zvaanoona kwemazuva ekupedzisira;
- mukana wekuwana mafungiro matsva. Isu tose tinorangarira manzwiro aya akawana pakutanga kwehukama. Kushaikwa kwerudo rwakadaro kunowanzoendesa munhu kune pfungwa yekuonekwa kwemaikadzi;
- kugutsikana kwepabonde. Mhuri dzakawanda, dzakavepo kwemakore anenge gumi nemaviri, hukama hukama hwepedyo hunoenda mberi. Kana pane zviitiko apo mudzimai haafaniri kunyatsokodzera munhu ari pamubhedha. Uye vashomanana vevarume vachange vasipo mukana wekuti vavezve vanodiwa uye vanoita zvepabonde.
Murume anoona nezve "upenyu huviri"
Zvisinei, izvi hazvisi zvikonzero zvose zvinoita kuti varume vatange vanofarira. The psychology of a man is so that a mistress is already a case, when there is no other way to do it. Uye mhosva yacho iri pamapfudzi evakadzi, avo vanovhiringidza, zvinokanganisa uye kusatarisira zvinomanikidza munhu kutsvaka rubatsiro parutivi rwake. Saka, kucherechedza vakadzi ndiyo mhinduro dzinowanzoitika, nei vanhu vane vakugara nokusingaperi:
- kazhinji munguva yedu yekuva nemadzimai akazova chikamu chemamiriro ekumusoro evanhu. Iko inofanirwa kunge iri kuonekwa kwemuenzaniso uye inofananidzwa nechigaro chemunhu. Nekuda kwechikonzero ichi, kwakaonekwa majee akakurumbira pamusoro pevanyori. Rudo harunhuhwi pano kana. Mari chete nemurume egoism;
- uyewo chikonzero ndechehupenyu hwemhuri hurefu, apo zvose zvinowanzozivikanwa uye zvakajairika. Uye kana vakaroorana vasina mukana wekuzorora kubva kune mumwe nemumwe, kakawanda kupfuura kwete, kutsvaga kwemaitiro kunotungamirira munhu kune pfungwa yekuita zvechisimba;
- imwe sarudzo inoshanda semhinduro kumubvunzo wechikadzi wenguva dzose "Vanhu vanoda vabati vavo here?". Izvi zvinoitika kuti kufunga kwekumutengesa murume uyu kwakanga kusina, asi kamwe kamwe kwakauya rudo rwakasimba. Izvi zvinoitika mumamiriro ezvinhu apo mudzimai akangokonzera kunzwa kwerudo, uye muhupenyu kamwe kamwe kwakange kune kunzwa kwechokwadi. Nenzira, ichi ndicho chikonzero chikuru chinoita kuti varume vaende kune avo vanonyadzisa.
Uye zvakadini nevanokanganisa saizvozvo?
Pasinei nokuti vanyengeri vanofara mubasa ravo, mubvunzo unokakavara. Kazhinji kacho, vakadzi ava vanotongerwa kusurukirwa kusvikira vawana munhu akasununguka. Sezvakaratidzwa zvinoratidzira, varume vakawanda vanogutsikana nehupenyu hwezvinhu apo mudzimai anodiwa ari kumirira kumba, uye kune rumwe rutivi kune amaikadzi vanogara vachisimudza kuzvidzora uye vanopa kugutsikana kwepabonde. Uye kunyange kana mudzimai akazara zvakakwana nemurume, izvi hazvizi izvo zvaasingazoshanduki. Chinonyanya kukosha ndechekuti achabata sei paanodzidza nezvekutengesa kwemurume wake uye nekuchenjera kwake achaita mumamiriro akadaro. Pakupedzisira, kana umwe neumwe akatongerwa kupomerwa akagumisa mukurambana, ipapo nhamba dzemhuri dzinopona dzaizova zero.