Tsvaga muchinda wako pakuedza kwekutanga kune nhamba shomanana yevakakumbirwa nemapemhi, asi vamwe vose vanopfuurira kuburikidza nekuparadzanisa nomunhu aimbova anodiwa. Ngatitorei kuti tingabva sei kumunhu (hazvina basa kana akaroorana kana kwete), nokuti vanhu vashomanana vanoda kurasa zvivara kubva mubhandi rake.
Nzira yekubva kumunhu sei?
Mamiriro ezvinhu akasiyana, mumwe munhu anofunga nezvenzira yekubva kune murume akaroorwa, mumwe munhu anoda kupedza ukama hwakanaka, asi kune zvose zviitiko kune mitemo inokosha inofanira kuremekedzwa pakuparadzanisa. Zvechokwadi, kana zvakasvika pakugumisa ukama nekuda kwekudhakwa, kurwisa, ipapo mazano haazobatsiri pano.
- Mutemo mukuru ndewekutendeseka, hatidi maitiro aya "tinofanira kurarama zvakasiyana", "ngatifunge nezvehukama hwedu", nezvimwewo. Neizvi iwe unongopa chikonzero chekushevedzera kwenguva refu, kusanzwisiswa kusingaperi kwehukama. Kana ukasarudza kubva, zvino taura zvakananga uye usina kuputika. Hapana chikonzero chekugadzira mahedheni akasiyana-siyana, se "iwe unondiitirawo zvakanaka," kunze kwechecheche wechikoro anokwanisa kutenda zvikonzero zvakadaro.
- Ziva pamusoro pezvisarudzo zvako iwe pachako, kwete maeils, kudana uye SMS. Ipa mukana wako kune iye zvino-wakare kuti ataure kunze, usaparadzanisa hukama, iwe unogona kuidzoka zvakare uye ukumbira rubatsiro. Uye munhu uyu haasi mutorwa kwauri, kana pasina rudo, ratidza ruremekedzo.
- Edza kusarudza nguva yakanaka yekutaura. Hazvifaniri kuisarudzira zuva raunonzwa usiri kana murume wacho zvinetso zvemotokari. Asi nguva yekutaura kune imwe mhemberero yekufambisa hainawo kukosha, iwe unoda zuva risingarereki.
- Kusarudza kusiya murume, usakurukura chisarudzo chako neshamwari dzako neshamwari dzake. Chokutanga, tsvaga zvinhu zvose pakati pavo, uye ipapo chete
kuunza nyaya kumatare evanhu.
Sei vakadzi vachisiya varume?
Kana iwe uchida kusiya murume wacho, munhu wese anozvisarudzira, asi ndizvo zvinokonzera vakadzi kuti vave muvambi wepasipo - kutsvaga nguva dzose kune zvakakosha kana chimwe chinhu, nei vakadzi vachisiya varume?
Zvikonzero zvinogona kutumidzwa kuwanda: tsika dzakaipa dzomunhu waunoda, kusavimbika, kusanzwisisa, godo, kusava nerudo, nezvimwewo. Asi chaizvoizvo, zvikonzero izvi zvose zvinogona kuratidzwa mumutambo umwe: mukadzi anosimuka murume kana chimwe chinhu chisingafananidzi naye muukama. Nokuti nguva iripo, munhu anokwanisa kushivirira kusagutsikana kweunhu, asi kana inosvika pachikamu chakakosha, ukama hunopera.