Murwere weakaberekwa nguva dzose anobva mumucheche uye haawanzwisisi nemunhu iye pachake. Anokurumidza kuzvisunungura pachokwadi chokuti haasi nhanho zvachose: akadzingwa kubva kubasa, akatengeswa neshamwari, akasiyiwa nevanodiwa. Zvisinei, zvinokosha kuti ukwanise kutarisana nechokwadi: kana mushure mokubvuma kuti une chirwere chinorwadza, unogona kukunda.
Psychology: victim syndrome
Vanhu vakadaro vanogona kuva pakati pevakadzi nevarume. Pakutanga, ivo vakanaka kwazvo, vanhu vakanaka chaizvo, asi muhupenyu havakwanisi: vashandi vanodurura basa rose pavari, shamwari dzinongoita zvavanokumbira "nyasha", zviremera hazvikoshese basa rakaoma. Panguva imwecheteyo, vanhu vakadaro havazi kujeka, edza kumira kunze kweboka revanhu, vanotaura zvinyararire, vanoita nyore nyore kugadzirisa, kupesana, uye kunyange kana kukakavara kusina kuitika kunze kwavo, vangasarudza kukumbira ruregerero.
Vanhu vanoona kusakwanisa kuzvimiririra ivo, uye zvishoma nezvishoma vanotanga kuishandisa. Kune chirwere chemunhu akabatana muhukama uye pamwe chete nevamwe, uye ne "shamwari", uye nemunhu anofarira.
Zvikonzero, sekutonga, kurara muhuduku: ivo "vana vasina kuroorwa" avo vasina kurairwa kwevabereki, avo vaigara vachiri munhu wechipiri mushure mehama kana hanzvadzi inoshandiswa kuwana zvishoma kudarika munhu. Vakaona kubva paudiki semafungiro avo pachavo semunhu wechipiri mutengo, nekuda kweivo vane chivimbo: "Ndiri munhu wechipiri, handina kukodzerwa zviri nani." Chero zvaunotenda, hupenyu huchagara uchingokupa husimbiso, mumamiriro ezvinhu iyo munhu asingazivi anoramba kuva nomutsa uye anonzwira tsitsi vanhu uye anotendeuka kune avo vakagadzirira kuishandisa.
Nzira yekubvisa sei chirwere chacho?
Kuti akunde chirwere chemunhu akabatwa, iwe unoda rubatsiro rwechiremba. Asi kana iwe uri kurwara zvakanyanya nemamiriro ezvinhu aya, ita zvaunoda uchiita chibvumo uye edza kuzviita iwe pachako:
- Ngwarira kune kubudirira kwako, nyora pasi mubhuku rino.
- Ngwarira zvinhu zvako zvakanaka, nyora pasi.
- Zuva rimwe nerimwe unoti kwauri: "Ndiri munhu akakurumbira, akakodzera zvose zvakanakisisa, uye maonero angu anofanirwa kufungwa."
- Usaita chero chausingadi - asi rubatsiro, kwete rudo.
- Rega mafungiro asina kunaka pamusoro pako, teerera pane zvakanaka mauri.
Chengetedza kufunga kwako mazuva makumi maviri nemashanu, uye ichava tsika. Zvishoma nezvishoma, iwe uchachinja mararamiro ehutsika, uye hauzombogoni kuitika. Aya mashoko haana kukwana kuverenga, inofanirwa kuitwa zuva nezuva. Kana iwe usingakwanisi kutarisana newe pachako. Tsanangudzo kune chiremba wepfungwa.