"Mamiriro akaita sei murume achibva mumba, kuitira kuti parege kuva nechisimba?" - Uchenjeri hwevanhu hunobvunza mubvunzo unofadza. Mukadzi wese ane mhinduro yake. Asi kodzero ichava iyo ichakwanisa kuchengetedza ushamwari hwemhuri yemhuri uye kugona kuratidzana rudo muwanano, kurarama kwete kwegore rokutanga nemurume wake.
Dzimwe nguva hupenyu hunoita zvishamiso zvisingafadzi uye, nokuda kwezvikonzero zvisingazivikanwi, murume anotungamirira hupenyu hwehuviri uye anosangana pamwe nekugumburwa kweumwe mukadzi usiku humwe.
Zvakanaka, tichaedza kutsvaga nzira, kudzorera mhuri yakarasika zvakare uye kudzidza kudzidza kudzorera murume kubva kuna tenzikadzi wake.
Ungaedza sei kudzorera murume wake kubva kuna tenzikadzi wake?
Maererano nehuwandu, kutungamirira hupenyu hwehupenyu huviri, munhu anoneta nehupenyu huno munenge gore. Uye izvi zvinoratidza kuti mumwe wevakadzi ava vaviri achakunda munhu waanoda.
Ngatiedzei kutarisa zvakananga, kubva kunze, kune izvi. Murume anowana nyaradzo mune mumwe mukadzi, pakutanga kwezvose, nokuti haaigona kuwana mauri. Izvi zvinoreva kuti kubva kwauri mumakore achangopfuura, kwakanga kusina kuzvipira, wakatanga kurasikirwa nemukadzi waakaroora naye. Mhuri kusagadzikana, kukakavara pamusoro penyika iyi, kushushikana - izvi zvose zvinoparadza zvakanyanya ukama hwemhuri. Asi kusava nemanzwiro emanzwiro evanoshamwaridzana kune umwe neumwe kunyanya kukonzera kukundikana.
Somuenzaniso, wakadzidza kuti mumwe munhu ane murume. Muchiitiko ichi, iwe unofanira kumira uchitya kuti achabva, akanganwe nezvekuzvikudza kwake kwevakadzi. Mukurwisana uku, uyo anoremekedzwa zvikuru achakunda. Usafunga chipiri chega chega kana murume achidzoka kumhuri.
Zvichengete iwe pachako, vana. Pinda zvakasiyana muupenyu hwako (kazhinji kacho kuenda kune kufamba, shandisa nguva yakawanda iwe pachako, maitiro ako, maitiro ako). Zvisinei zvisingazivikanwi zvinogona kurira, asi kana uchida kunzwisisa kuti ungadzoka sei murume mushure mekusengedzwa, muratidze asina mhosva yaunogona kuita kunze kwake.
Ko vekare varume vanoda kudzoka here?
Apo murume wako anoziva kuti hakuna chimwe chinhu chokuvanza kubva kwauri, iwe unoziva chakavanzika chake, rudo rwake kune umwe runodzinga. Kunyangwe kana akazotanga kugara nemumwe mukadzi, acharasikirwa newaini yekare, imba yekunyaradza. Mukadzikadzi mazuva ose anotanga kuwana zvikanganiso uye anoda kudzokera kunzira inogara yehupenyu, kune yekare yevemhuri. Kuwedzerwa kukuru kuchave zvakare kuti iwe hautangi kumutumidza nemunyengetero pamusoro pokudzoka kwake. Iye achanzwisisa zvaakarasa.
Saka, murume anoda kudzoka mushure mokunge wamuratidza nzira yako yehupenyu, iwe unoziva iwe pachako unokosha here? Mhinduro isina chokwadi ndeyekuti, murume anoda kudzokera kumhuri.
Funga kuti unoda sei kuzvibata kana murume akadzokera kumhuri:
- Edza kumuregerera. Kuzvidza kumabasa omurume wake kunongoparadza hutano hwako uye hukama hwako.
- Mukusangana kupi zvako, tarisa kubvumirana. Edza kunzwisisa kuti hairi katatu. Tarisa mamiriro acho nemeso ake.
- Tora nguva yekutaura mwoyo nemwoyo. Usabvunza kuti nei murume akadzoka kubva kuna madzimadzi kwauri. Teererai uye iwe uchazonzwisisa zvinokonzerwa nekushambadzira kwake. Achiona mukati menyu chisikwa chinoshushikana, iye pakupedzisira anova nechokwadi kuti iye akakodzera chete werudo rwako.
Iye zvino ngationei muchidimbu. Murume wekare-kare anoda kudzokera kumhuri, kumukadzi anodikamwa chete apo iwe unomira iwe pachako kubva pakuzvitsaurira kwaari apo iwe uchiyeuka kuti haasi mambo wenyika uye pane zvinhu zvizhinji zvinonakidza zvakakomberedza. Kuvandudza, kuvandudza, asi ita kuti zvive pachena kuti haasi Mwari kwauri. Ziva kuti iwe unofanirwa chete zvakanakisisa.
Murume wake anoda kudzoka here kana iwe nehosi yako muchigadzira chigaro chekuzvimirira, kumuchengetedza uye kubvisa zvipfeko zvevhu? Mhinduro yacho kwete. Mushure mezvose, iye ose aripo uye ipapo. Vanaamai vaviri vanotarisira pamusoro pake. Sei achifanira kurasikirwa nenzira yakadaro yehupenyu?
Ongorora zviito zvako. Ita chigumo, zvisati zvave kunonoka kushandura zvinhu zvose.