Kazhinji pane mamiriro ezvinhu anoisa vasikana mune mamiriro anonyadzisa. Misangano, kukurukurirana, hukama humwe hunovhiringidzika kamwe kamwe nekuedza nguva dzose kwehafu yekuvhara nekuenda. Tinofanira kuita sei kana munhu achida uye achidzivisa? Uye iye anoda here kana achidzivisa?
Sei munhu achidzivisa kutaura?
Kudzivisa kutaura, munhu anogona nokuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana, zvakawanda zvichienderana nemamiriro ezvinhu uye nguva yekuzivana kwako. Saka ngationei zvikonzero zvinowanzoita kuti munhu arege kubatana nemukadzi:
- Akaronga zvepabonde rimwe chete-nguva, ane chiremera chemunharaunda kana musikana, uye iye ari kutarisana, kudii kwako kwaisazove chichivhiringidza hupenyu hwake hwakaenzana.
- Anokufungidzira iwe wekusatenda uye akatamira kure kuti aite pfufisi yake.
- Akachinja uye anonzwa ane mhosva (mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, murume anowanzodzivirira kutarisa mumaziso).
- Anotora mushure mekukakavadzana kukuru uye akarurama haadi kutanga kutanga kuratidzwa zvakare.
- Anoda kujekesa kuti sangano rako haritombofariri iye.
- Ane matambudziko kubasa kana mune mamwe mararamiro ehupenyu, akavharwa mukati make.
- Akadzidza nezvako chimwe chinhu chisingafadzi, uye anoda kuongororazve mamiriro acho ezvinhu.
- Ari mukutambudzika kwakadzika uye anorega kutaurirana nemunhu zvachose, uye kwete chete newe.
- Akasangana nomumwe, uye akatorwa nokukurukurirana naye, uye iwe unogara kure.
- Ari kurwara zvakanyanya uye haadi kukuvhiringidza iwe.
Sezvaunonzwisisa, zvinogona kuva nezvikonzero zvakawanda. Uye kana murume murudo achidzivirira mukadzi, zvinoshamisa, nokuti rudo rwechokwadi munhu anogara achitsvaka kutaura.
Zvakadini kana murume wacho achidzivisa?
Kana iwe uchiziva murume kwenguva shomanana, zvinogoneka kuti nenzira iyi anotsvaka kuramba kutaura newe. Haasi munhu wose ane mwoyo wekuuya ndokutaura zvakananga: "Ndine urombo, hatigoni kusanganazve." Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, vanhu vasina simba havapinduri kudana, kudzivisa misangano, uye nenzira isina kujeka vanojekesa kuti havafariri kutaura. Muchiitiko ichi, hapana chaunofanira kuita hachidikanwi, kungosunungura munhu wacho nekuzvikudza uchienderera mberi.
Kana iwe uri muukama kwenguva yakareba, uye usingaoni zvikonzero zvehutano hwakadaro, saka hauna zvingasarudzwa, kunze kweiyo: kuumba pfungwa uye kutaura nemurume. Murinde naye kwemavhiki mashomanana, kana zvichibvira, achicherechedza uchapupu hwomuitiro wake usingaoneki nenzira ye SMS, nekunye. Paunounganidza zvokwadi, chengorora uye uone kuti iyi haisi yekugadzirwa kwako, asi iyo chaiyo yezvinhu, zvakakosha kutaura nemunhu.
Kukurukurirana zviri nani kuvaka pamusoro pegadziriro iyi:
- Tsvaga kana ane matambudziko kubasa, kudzidza, nehama, motokari, nezvimwewo. Zvichida iye akaipa uye akavharirwa mukati make.
- Kana mune zvikamu zvose zvehupenyu hwake urongwa hwakakwana, bvunza kuti sei misangano yako yakave isinganzwisisiki, uye kana iri iri mhosva yako. Munhu asina simba achazotanga kuramba, asi pano unogona kuuya neuchapupu hwako, hwawakagadzirira kare.
- Bvunza kana angada kutora nguva uye achizorora kubva paukama hwako, kwete kuona mumwe kwevhiki kana maviri? Dzimwe nguva zvinongodiwa kuti munhu atange kuonga mweya wake.
Somugumisiro wekukurukurirana kwakadai, zvakakosha kuziva zvikonzero nekukumbira kuti ungamubatsire sei mukubata navo, nokuti unhu hwake hunoparadza ukama hwako.
Chero zvazviri, kudzivisa nguva dzose chiratidzo chinotyisa. Munhu ane rudo anoda kupedza nguva yakawanda yenguva yake yekusununguka neaanoda, uye kana izvi zvisingabatsire ukama hwako, zvichida manzwiro haasi akafanana. Usaregera maoko ako nguva isati yasvika, tsvaga zvose zvaunogona uye uite chisarudzo pane izvi.