Ukama hune rudo nemurume akaroora ndiyo imwe yenzira dzakaoma kwazvo dzehukama. Izvi zvinoitika kuti hazvisi nyore kumudzimai kana murume kuti azvinzwisise. Ukama hwakadaro hwakaoma kudana ukama pakati pevanhu vaviri. Vamwe vanhu vanobatwa zvisina kufanira mavari vasingabatsiri: vakaroorana, vana.
Nzira yekuvaka ukama nemurume akaroorwa?
Iwe unogona kuwana mazano akawanda kubva kune chiremba wepfungwa pamusoro pehukama nemurume akaroora. Zvisinei, ivo vose vanoburukira pasi kune chokwadi chokuti mukadzi anofanira kuve nehanya nemaonero ezvinhu kubva pakutanga.
Mhombwe dzakawanda dzinotaura kuti murume akaroora haadi mudzimai wake, asi anomuda. Zvechokwadi, iye achati izvi, nokuti zvimwe haazove neukama hwepakati. Pane zvikonzero zvakasiyana siyana nei murume akaroora achifunga nezvekushandura kwevanhu vasina kuroorwa. Asi pakati pezvikonzero izvi, chete chikamu chiduku ndechekuda kuwana rudo rutsva uye kusiya mhuri. Kazhinji munhu anosarudza kuita hutsva huripo, asi haambogoni kuparadza mhuri yake, kurasikirwa nehukama nemudzimai waanosangana naye nemakore ekugara pamwe chete, hupenyu humwe, vanozivana nevana.
Ukama nemurume akaroora zvakaoma nokuti hapana chinogona kudiwa kubva kune uyo anoda. Uye chinhu chakaipisisa ndechokuti tenzikadzi acharamba achipiwa basa re violin rechipiri. Anokwanisa kuva nemari yemari, asi chete mumari yakasara kubva kumhuri. Anokwanisa kutora nguva yekubatana, asi apo kana murume achipukunyuka achibva kumhuri.
Kazhinji munhu anoenda kune hukama hwepabonde, sekuwedzera, asi kwete kutsiva mhuri. Ukama hwakadaro hunogona kugara kwemakore muhupenyu husina kuchinja. Zvipikirwa zvekurambana zvinogona kuputsika pamusoro pekurwara kwemudzimai, nguva yemwana, matambudziko ari kushanda.
Munyaya iyi, mukadzi anotanga kutambura, kunzwisisa sei mafungiro evanhu vakaroorana. Zvisinei, nguva dzose anoziva chokwadi, asi haadi kuigamuchira. Ichokwadi ndechekuti muhukama hwakadaro, varume vanowanzofarira kugara pazvigaro zviviri: gara nemhuri uye uve nakadzikadzi. Mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, mukadzi anofanira kusarudza pane dzimwe nyaya:
- zvisinei kuti iye anoda hukama hwakadaro, ndiye akagadzirira kugara kwavari pasina mhuri yakakwana;
- Anogara ari akagadzirira kuva kumashure uye kugutsikana nezvaakasiya mushure memhuri;
- iye akagadzirira kumirira kwemakore akawanda nokuda kwekurambana kwake;
- Achakwanisa here kugadzikana akadzikama kana murume achaneta navekadzikadzi?
Iyi nyaya nedzimwe nyaya dzinoda kugadziriswa pakarepo, kuitira kuti mushure mekusaita kunyunyuta, kwete mhosva munhu wose.
Nzira yekuchengetedza ukama nemurume akaroorwa?
Kana, pasinei ne "zvigaro" zvose, mukadzi ari kuda kuchengetedza ukama nemurume akaroora, anofanirwa kutevera mazano akadai:
- Usazvidza murume wemurume. Kunyange kana achinyunyuti pamusoro pazvo, anogona kugumburwa nemashoko atenzikadzi wake, nokuti achiri kunzwa achibatana nemudzimai wake.
- Usaudza munhu nezvehukama uhwu. Kana mudzimai akawana pangozi pamusoro pezvakaitwa nemurume kana mudzimai wake, anogona kumanikidzira mudzimai wake kumudzivisa.
- Iwe haugoni kuisa kumanikidza munhu.
- Zvakakosha kuudza munhu nezvorudo rwake uye nezvekukosha kwake muupenyu.
- Sezvo kazhinji kacho murume ari kutsvaga pabonde rakanaka kune rumwe rutivi, tenzikadzi anoda kuva nyanzvi munyaya iyi.
Ukama huri pakati pemurume akaroora uye mukadzi akaroorwa
Rudzi urwu hwehukama hwevarume vakawanda hunogamuchirwa kupfuura hukama nevakadzi vakasununguka. Izvozvi vanonyadzisa havakwanisi, havadi kupa zvipo zvinodhura, vane nguva shomanana yemisangano, ivo zviri nyore kugadzirisa kuparadzana.
Zvisinei, kumudzimai ukama hwakadaro hunova hwakaipa pane hwakanaka. Sezvo mukadzi nemasikirwo ari mupfungwa uye ane hanya, chido chekuita kune rumwe rutivi chinobva chava kuonekwa kune vemhuri. Ndicho chikonzero chichato nekutengeswa kwemudzimai kunoguma nekukurumidza kupfuura kuroorana nechisimba chemurume.