Kushamwaridzana kwakashamwaridzana nekubatana, ushamwari nerudo zvose zvikamu zvechiitiko chakadai sekubatana. Munhu anouya munyika ino nemabasa ake, uye nokuti achabvumirwa zvizere nehama dzake, kuti achabata sei kuvaka ukama neshamwari nevamwe vanoenderana nehupenyu hwake uye hutano.
Chii chinobatana?
Muzvinyorwa zvekare (muchiLatini - chiziviso uye- fillis ), kushamwaridzana kunogamuchirwa, muurope yeEurope, izwi rinoreva kusanganisa. Vanhu nehupenyu hwavo hupenyu hwevanhu, uye pasina rubatsiro rwevamwe vanove vasina kufara zvikuru, zvakaoma kusunungura munhu wacho uye kuziva zvaanogona oga. Chirevo chekubatana chinosanganisira zvakadai se:
- kukurukurirana;
- kubatanidzwa;
- emotional contacts;
- ushamwari;
- trust;
- kugamuchira;
- rudo;
- kubatana;
- kuchengeteka;
- cherechedza.
Kushamwaridzana muPsychology
Kushamwaridzana uye kusungirirana mazano akafanana anoratidza kusimba kwakasimba kwepfungwa iyo mwana anayo mumhuri, iyo ndiyo inobva pakushamwaridzana kwekutanga kune iye. Nzira yekudzidzisa inoshandisa nheyo dzekuona kwevamwe. Mutongi akaoma-anoreva chirango, uye mwana akakurira mumhuri yakadaro achadzivisa ushamwari hwepedyo. Kubvuma mwana, achikurudzira mukati make pfungwa yekuremekedza , uye kukurudzirwa kwehukama hwakadai sechishuwo chekunzwira tsitsi uye kunzwisisika, kunounza kudiwa kukuru kwekuvaka hukama hukama nevanhu.
Kushamwaridzana mune zvepfungwa ndiko chinangwa chokuti mazwi eAmerica wepfungwa dzekuAmerica Henry Murray anoreva:
- fara nevamwe;
- kuti vawane rudo;
- ita ushamwari;
- kubatana nevanhu;
- inobatana nemapoka akasiyana.
Kushamwaridzana kwevanhu
Kushamwaridzana sechidikanwi chekushamwaridzana nevanhu vanobva mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma, kana vanhu vakaungana mumatambudziko ehupenyu, kana iri hondo, nzara kana rufu. Mufaro uye kubudirira kwevanhu: kushanya kwemunhu munzvimbo, kuguma kwehondo - kwaivawo nguva yekubatana. Sei munhu achida kubatanidzwa kwevanhu kana kuwirirana? Pane zvikonzero zvakawanda zveizvi:
- Kuongororwa - kukodzera kana kusakarurama kwemabasa akaitwa munzanga. Munhu anoda mudzidzisi anofarira kwaari kuitira kuti abatsire kubudirira kubudirira muhutano hwakasarudzwa hwebasa.
- Instrumental support - kugamuchira rubatsiro rwakasiyana-siyana, rubatsiro kubva kuvanhu.
- Rutsigiro rwezvenhau - ruzivo rwomunzanga, rwakakonzerwa nemazera, rwakagadzirirwa mune ruzivo kuti runobatana sei nechimwe chinhu kana chimwe chiitiko.
Kubatana - Zvikonzero
Mune firimu "Ngatitangei!" Heroine Susan Sarandon anotaura chirevo chekuti nei vanhu vachida kuva pamwe chete. Izvi zvinokonzerwa nekuti munhu wose anoda uchapupu hwehupenyu hwake uyo anocherechedza zvinhu zvose zvinoitika uye anopa zvinoreva kuvapo, chapupu chinoti: "Ndinokuona iwe!" Chido chekubatana chinokonzerwa nezvikonzero:
- kudiwa kwemaonero akanaka nekukurukurirana kwehupenyu hwehupenyu;
- kugamuchira nekucherechedza zvavakaita;
- kubvisa kuzvishamisira pakuzvienzanisa nevamwe;
- mamiriro ekuzvidya mwoyo mupfungwa - munhu anoedza kuva nevaya vasina kufara uye vanogona kupa rubatsiro;
- Kusurukirwa sekusagadzikana kwevanhu kune zvakaoma kunzwisisa, kunogona kutungamirira kune zvirwere zvakakomba kusvika pakufa kwepfungwa nekukurumidza.
Chikonzero chekubudirira nekubatana
Chido chekubudirira munharaunda chakakosha kuti vanhu vazvizive. Kukurudzira kubatana uye kubudirira kunopindirana uye kunobva pane zvinodiwa nomunhu kuti abudirire kuburikidza nekugadza vatinhigiri uye zvibvumirano. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzakapa zviyero zvitatu kana chinangwa chekubatana:
- Kushamwaridzana kwepamusoro ndicho chinangwa chokugamuchirwa kumusoro, uye kutya kwekudzingwa kwakaderera. Inokunda kune vanhu vane maitiro akasiyana-siyana, ane chiratidziro kana hunyengeri, unhu hwevanhu vane ropa. Vanhu vakadaro vanoda zvakawanda kubva kune vamwe, kusurukirwa kwavo hakugamuchirwi, zvose zvinobudirira zvinowanikwa chete nekubatana pamwe nevanhu.
- Hutauri hwepakati (hupakati) hunoonekwa nehutsika hwechido chokugamuchirwa uye kutya kwekurambwa. Vanhu ava vanonzwa vakanetseka mukambani huru uye voga.
- Kushamwaridzana kwakaderera kutya kukuru kwokuramba. Chinangwa chekubatana chakaderera. Muhuduku, munhu uyu akawana ruzivo rwakasuruvara rwekurambwa nevabereki kana hama, kushungurudzika. Hasi nguva dzose kushamwaridzana kwakadzika chiratidzo chinotyisa, pane vanhu vauye ivo vane kusurukirwa vakanaka - vanozviriritira uye vanobudirira mukugadzirisa: vanyori, masayendisiti, artists.
Kushamwaridzana uye kusafarira
Chido chekubatana chinogona kuzviratidza mukushushikana kwekushumira nekutarisira vamwe. Altruism - kubatsira mafambiro, chinangwa chisingarangarirwi chomunhu uye chinogona kutorwa kare mumwana wemakore matatu, asi rudo rukuru rwevanhu runobatsira kukurudzira seunhu hwakasimba hunhu. Altruism inofananidzwa nemunhu ane pfungwa huru yekunzwira tsitsi uye kubatanidzwa.