Ukama hwakasununguka pakati pemurume nemukadzi kana vanhu vemukomana mumwechete hunova hunoonekwa. Nzvimbo dzehutano dzevanhu, kufambidzana nzvimbo dzinoita kuti zvive nyore kuwana shamwari yehukama pasina hurumende, kuedza kukwidziridzwa kwekushanda kwepamusoro kusasiya nguva yeukama hwakakomba - izvi ndizvo zvinoitika zvezvinoitika zvemazuva ano.
Chii chinonzi "ukama huripo" zvinorevei?
Ukama hwakasununguka - inyanzvi yepfungwa inotsanangura ichi chiitiko sechishuvo chekuwirirana kwevanhu vaviri kuvaka hukama hwavo pasina hurumende kune umwe neumwe. Uku ndiko hukama hwakatendeseka umo zvinhu zvose "zvakajeka" uye zvinonzwisisika, zvisingabatanidzi zvirevo, godo uye chido chokuva nemumwe wako pasina. Munyika dzakawanda, umo mararamiro emhuri aripo uye tsika dzakadaro dzinodzivirirwa, hukama hwehupombwe hunopomerwa uye hunokonzera kutongerwa.
Ukama hwemhuri husina hanya
Ukama hwakasununguka muwanano hahuwanzoitiki kuvanhu vemazuva ano. Imba yehurumende haina kubhadharwa uye inongogara chete pane kuvimbana pakati pevashandi, hapana chinodzivisa mumwe wako kutendeuka chero nguva ipi zvayo uye achienda, haasi akasungwa nemabasa ose. Zvinowanzoitika, mushure memazana emakore ekuroorana kwevanhu, vaviri vacho vanofunga kuti vanyore hukama hwavo hwepamutemo, uye havapfuuri uye ivo vakarambana kwegore. Izvozvo zvinopesana. Kunzwa kwerusununguko kwakabatanidza kubatana kwakadaro, uye kuwedzerwa kwaro kune hurumende kwakatungamirira kuparadzwa.
Ndinofanira kugadzirisa ukama hwakasununguka here?
Nzira yekuziva sei ukama hwakasununguka uye kuti zvakakodzera here kupinda mukati mavo? Ichi ndicho chisarudzo chemunhu mumwe nomumwe. Zvakakosha kufunga, kuongorora zvakanakira uye kukanganisa kwehukama pasina hurumende, uye kana iri panguva iyo izvo "chiremba akatarirwa", sei? Zvakakosha kupa pamberi pedu mutoro wekuti tisakwanisa kufungidzira, saka kubva paukama hwehupenyu munhu anogona kuwana rufaro uye chiitiko chitsva.
Ukama hwakasununguka - hutano uye hutano
Ukama hwehutungamiri pasina hurumende sezvinenge humwe humwe hutano hwevanhu hunobatsira uye hwakashata. Nzira dzehukama hwakasununguka:
- rusununguko munhu wese wega;
- Hapana kuvhara (kuvimba) kune mumwe nemumwe, kunze kwekuti vaviri vakaroorana vanozvigadzirisa zvakaenzana uye vanogutsikana nehukama hwakadaro;
- Hakuna munhu unokwereta kune umwe;
- vose vari vaviri vangave nevamwe hukama;
- hapana kunyunyuta kune mumwe.
Izvo zvinyorwa zvehukama pasina hurumende zvinokonzerwa nemamwe mazita epamusoro uye nhamba dzinotevera:
- rusununguko rusununguko rwakavakirwa pane zvekuita zvepabonde (kukwezva, kuda), nezve rudo pano hazviendi;
- kutongwa kwevadikanwa, shamwari, sangano - ukama hwakadaro hunowanzopomerwa mhosva;
- fragility;
- dzimwe nguva kufambidzana kwomumwe wako kunowedzera murudo, pasina kubvumirana, uye kupera kunoshanduka kuva kunorwadza parutivi rworudo.
Ukama hwakasununguka hwevakadzi
Chikonzero nei mukomana achida ushamwari hwekusununguka uye kunyange kuva murume akakura mumudzimu haaedzi kushanda nesimba, izvo zvinoita kuti pave neukama hwakasimba. Mune chikamu, izvi zvinotsanangura dzidziso yecheka - murume anoedza kuva nevamwe vanhu, izvi zviri mumamiriro ake. Kune mukadzi, hukama hunogona kuva hunofadza uye hwakanaka pakuvamba, apo manzwiro asati asarudzwa, pane kungofanana nehupenyu. Kusiyana nevarume, mukadzi anowanzova chisikwa chisingagumi, uye zvakakosha kuti iye anzwe akadzivirirwa, kuti ukama hwakasununguka haugone kupa zvizere.
Nzira ipi yekuendesa ukama hwehukama muhukama hwakakomba?
Murume anopa hukama hwakasununguka mumatambudziko akawanda:
- iye haana kugadzirira kuva neukama hwakasimba;
- achangobva kupona kurambana ;
- ndeyomutambo wevakadzikadzi 'murume;
- basa rake rinotora nguva yakawanda uye pasina nguva yeukama hwepedyo;
- iye ari oga uye haana kusikwa kuti ave noukama hwepedyo.
Muzviitiko zvose izvi zvichange zvakaoma kutungamirira ukama hwakasununguka mune nzira yakarurama, kazhinji kana kuchinja kunowanzoitika zvakasununguka, zvinokosha kuti uedze zvakaoma zvikuru uye kuedza hakufaniri kuve kwakanyanyisa. Mazano evanofunga nezvepfungwa maitiro ekuunza hukama kune hutsva, huwandu hwakanyanya:
- kuti auye nemumwe muhurukuro, vataure pamusoro pemanzwiro avo pamusoro pake, asi vasingagoni kugadzirisa iye, kwete kushandura;
- kumupa nguva yekuita chisarudzo;
- kana kutaura kwechokwadi pasina kubatsira, zvakakosha kuziva zvikonzero nei munhu achida kusiya zvose sezvazviri, teerera kune zvaanotaura;
- vanotanga kuchinja uye kumira kuisa pfungwa pane zvinotarisirwa zvevarume, kutarisana nematambudziko avo, kusazvidzivirira- mukadzi anozvigadzirira anofarira zvikuru murume, uyu haadi kurasikirwa, nokuti nokuti, uye iye anokura, anokura.
Nzira yekuti iwe haudi hukama hwakasununguka?
Mamiriro acho akajairika apo vasikana vanobvunza mubvunzo pamagariro evakadzi kana zvepfungwa: "Murume uyu akapa hukama hwakasununguka, ndinoda zvikuru, asi ndinoda zvakawanda." Chii chaunofanira kuita munyaya iyi? Kutendeseka kutaura pamusoro peizvi pakutanga, kwete kuvaka chirevo chokuti nerubatsiro rwepabonde unogona kusunga mumwe wako. Munyika kune umwe ane maitiro akafanana.
Nzira yekugumisa sei ukama hwakasununguka?
Kuparara kwehukama hwakasununguka pamusana pekutanga kwemukadzi kunowanzoitika, varume vakaronga hukama hwakadaro. Mukadzi dzimwe nguva anobvumirana kuva nemurume maererano nemitemo yake, achitarisira kuti achakwanisa "kutadza" kuti achava akavimba naye, asi izvi hazviitiki, iye anonyadziswa uye hapana chakasara kuita asi regai murume wacho aende. Nzira yekuparadzanisa ukama hwakadaro husununguko rusununguko, mazano:
- zvibvumira iwe nguva yekutambudzika;
- Dzivisa kusangana kupi zvako: usapindura foni, mharidzo, usasangana;
- vanoisa zvinhu zvinokosha muupenyu hwavo, ona kukosha kwekuvaka ukama hwakabatana mune vakaroorana apo vanobatana vanokoshesa uye vakagadzirira kuvaka mhuri yakakwana;
- kana hukama hwave huchivimba uye hwakaoma kupedzisa zvakakosha kubvunza rubatsiro kubva kumunhu wepfungwa.
Nzira yekuwana sei shamwari yako yehukama husina hanya?
Kuwana hukama huripo hunozivikanwa zvikuru pakati pevanhu vezera ripi zvaro. Tsvaka shamwari yakakodzera haisi yakaoma. "Kirasi yehukama hwehutano" uye nzvimbo dzakafanana dzekufambidzana dzinogona kuwanika nyore paInternet. Nzvimbo dzakasiyana-siyana, mapoka mumakambani evanhu vanozivikanwa akawanda ane mhando dzakadai dzekutsvaga mumwe wako kana shamwari kune misangano.
Mafirimu pamusoro pehukama hwehutano
Munyika yemazuva ano, tsika dzinoshanduka, uye kana kuroorana kwepakutanga kwaive chinhu chinokosha chehukama huri pakati pemurume nemukadzi, nhasi ino haisi yepamusoro, vechidiki vanoedza hukama vasina hurumende, uye varoorana avo vakaroorana vanoedzawo rusununguko. "Kusununguka kwehukama" - firimu nemukuru weGermany M. Herling pamusoro pehama, shamwari dzemhuri. Upenyu hwezuva nezuva nehuwandu hwemagariro huripo hunoisa zvavanoreva pahukama uye varume vanofunga kuita "pepper" -kutsinhanisa vakadzi. Chii chichauya kubva mazviri, unogona kuwana nekuona mutambo uyu.
Mamwe mafirimu pamusoro pekusununguka, kwete hukama hwemhiko:
- " Shamwari dzeBatsiro ". Jamie, unhu hukuru hunokanda munhu uyu, kwete yekutanga, uye Dylan, wechipiri munhu mukuru, zvakare, anokanda musikana nekuda kwekushanda kwake. Vose vari vaviri vanosarudza kuti ukama hwepedyo hahusi hwavo. Dylan anosvika kuNew York kuti awane basa mune imwe huru yekudhinda imba, uye pahandare yendege kusvika pakuziva Jamie, mutungamiri weimba iyi yekudhinda, ushamwari hunomuka pakati pavo, uye kukwezva kunowira zvishoma nezvishoma. Jamie anobvumirana nekuita zvepabonde, uye kusununguka kushamwaridzana kunze kwekuzvipira kupi zvako, Dylan anomutsigira mune izvi.
- " Ruzivo / Utsva ". Kuziva kuburikidza neInternet , iyo izere nzvimbo uye zvikumbiro zvekusarudza mumwe wako - zvakava nyore nyore kuzivikanwa uye kupora. Zviri nyore kwazvo: kusangana, kurara kune mumwe nemumwe uye pasina kupatsanurana, kuedza kwakasiyana-siyana nenzira yekushamwaridzana hakudiwi pane izvi. Gaby naMartin vakagamuchira kuburikidza nekushandira uye vakasarudza kupedza usiku pamwe chete vasingaverengi nekuenderera mberi, asi chimwe chinhu chakavabata mumwe nomumwe.
- " Kuwedzera pane zvepabonde / Kwete Zvisungo zvakabatanidzwa ". Adhamu naEma vakaungana makore gumi nemashanu apfuura, asi hukama hwavo panguva iyoyo harina kuitika. Adhamu anofamba kubva pamubhedha mumwe kuenda kune mumwe, uye kamwe pakarepo kutumira mameseji nechishuvo chokupedza nguva kune vose vasikana vake vanotumira shoko rakadai naEma. Vanosangana uye vanopinda muhukama hwepabonde rusununguko hunongobva padziviridzo chete. Havana kuchengetedza fungiro uye vanotenda kuti vanoda kubva kune mumwe kune zvepabonde chete. Izvi ndizvo here?