Kunwa doro ndechirwere chinoshandura hupenyu hwomurwere uye vadikanwa vake muhusiku. Nokuda kwechiitiko ichi, kunyange pane izwi rinokosha - codependence. Zvingaita kumudzimai, kana murume wake ari doro, achapa mazano kune imwe nyanzvi yepfungwa.
Mazano enyanzvi dzepfungwa maitiro ekugara nemurume doro
Kana mukadzi, pasinei nemishonga, anoramba achida murume wake, anoramba achigara naye pasinei nokuti chii. Muchiitiko ichi, mudzimai anofanira kuedza kubatsira murume wake kukurira chirwere chacho.
Mienzaniso yekurapa udhakwa haisi isingazivikanwi, mumwe munhu anobatsirwa nekutenda kwechokwadi, mumwe mupfungwa yepfungwa, chechitatu mishonga uye "coding" dzakasiyana-siyana. Nzira yacho chero ipi zvayo inofanira kusarudzwa mumwe nomumwe. Zvisinei, zvinofanira kuonekwa kuti rubatsiro rwepfungwa runodikanwa kumukadzi pachake, sezvo hupenyu hwekutya nekusingaperi hunopera zvose mumuviri uye mutsika.
Asi kana murume achanwa, mukadzi anofanira kuchengeta mitemo yakati:
- iwe haugone kuratidza utera hwako uye kusava nemubatsiro - mufambiro wakadaro wemukadzi uchaita kuti murume wacho ave nemafuta makuru, uye kana murume achiziva kuti mukadzi achararama zvakanaka pasina iye, achaedza kutsungirira dambudziko racho;
- Mudzimai haafaniri kukanganwa kuti iye mukadzi - murume anofanira kugara achiyeuka kuti anoda mudzimai wake, zvino chido chekurwisa chirwere chichava chakasimba kwaari;
- mudzimai wake anoda nguva yakawanda kuti apiwe murume wake - zvinowanzodiwa zvemhuri uye zvido zvinogona kuita chishamiso uye kumutsa munhu kubva doro.
Zvamusingakwanisi kuita kumukadzi wemurume anonwa:
- kunyadzisa, kuita hutsinye, "akaona" mudzimai;
- kusazvidza kana kutyisidzira kurambana;
- launch yourself;
- kunyorera uye kururamisira kudhakwa;
- kutsamwa murume - haasi iye akaipa, asi tsika yake;
- kutyisa shamwari neshamwari nokuda kwekudhakwa - munhu anozvisarudzira.
Kuti abatsire murume wake, zvakafanira kuziva zvikonzero zvinokonzera kudhakwa. Izvi zvinogona kuva chimiro chekuberekwa kwemasvikiro, kusimba kwakasimba kunobatanidza nerufu, kubviswa, kupandukira. Mukadzi anofanira kuedza kunzwisisa chii chaicho chinopa murume wake doro - kununura, kukanganisa kukanganwa matambudziko, kunokwezva kwaari.
Asi kana pasina chinobatsira, munhu anonwa uye "anosunungura maoko ake," mukadzi anogona kunge ane dambudziko rimwe chete: seika kure nemurume wake - doro uye munhu anotyisa - pasina kurasikirwa, kuchengetedza utano hwepanyama nehutano. Uye kana chisarudzo chakadaro chikaitwa, chinofanira kushandiswa pasina kunonoka uye kuzvidemba, kuchengetedza kuchengetedza ivo nevana.