Mashoko ehurukuro yevana yakakurumbira "shamwari inoshayiwa haazoregi" muenzaniso wakajeka wekuti munhu anoona hukama hwehukama sei. Chii chinonzi ushamwari uye kana chiri munyika yemazuva ano, apo vanhu vanokurukurirana kuburikidza nehutano hwemagariro evanhu, uye saka kazhinji hazviitiki muupenyu chaihwo.
Pane ushamwari here?
Pfungwa yehukama yakabvunzwa kwemazana emakore nevamiririri vemakwikwi akasiyana-siyana efilosofi, asi vatsvakurudzi vakuru vaiva vanyori, vanyori uye vepfungwa dzepfungwa. Izvo zviitiko zvehukama hazvirevi kune chimwe chigadziro, asi pakuonekwa kwevanhu vakawanda, ushamwari ihwohwo hukama hwepedyo uye hunovimbana pakati pevanhu, zvichibva pakubatana pamwe chete mune zvekunakidza, nzira yehupenyu uye kunzwisisa kwakanaka kune mumwe.
Psychology of Friendship
Dambudziko rehukama huripo, masayendisiti anofunga. Mumakore ekukurumidza emichina yekombiyuta, vanhu vanosarudza kukurukurirana nenzira dzeshambadzi, asi kazhinji hazviwani nguva yekusangana semunhu. Vanhu vanorasikirwa nezvakawanda: hapana ruvara rwehukama pamapfudzi, maonero anoonekwa, uye kutendeseka kunenge kusisipo. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinofunga kuti kukoshesa kweshamwari ari mumisangano, kurongedza kurarisana, uye kusakwanisa kukurukurirana kwakakwana kunogona kukonzera kuora mwoyo . Iro psychology youshamwari inopedzerwa mune zvakanaka zvimwe:
- kunzwa "Handisi ndoga!" kurwisana nekusurukirwa uye kuparadzana;
- chete muhupo hwechimwe chinhu chinokosha, munhu anozviratidza semunhu uye anodzidza kuva shamwari.
Mhando dzehukama
Sei vanhu vari shamwari? Kutaura kwokutanga kwekukosha kwoushamwari kunowanikwa kunyange mumitambo yekare. Vanyori vanokurudzira kukosha kwefudzi, iro rinowanikwa mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma pedyo uye chido chekuita manzwiro ane ushamwari muupenyu hwose. Munharaunda, zvakajairika kugovana ushamwari maererano nezera uye zvepabonde. Aina dzehukama:
- Mwana - mwana anoziva nyika uye anoedza kuvaka ukama nevamwe, kudzidza pamwe chimwe chinhu chinonakidza. Vana vanoridza mumitambo yakafanana.
- Vechidiki - chido chakakura chekutaura iwe, manzwiro ako. Ushamwari pazera iri rine mhosva yepamusoro yepfungwa. Unhu hwomumwe hunove hunosimudzirwa uye hwakasimudzirwa - mupfungwa yakanaka hunobatsira kurarama nguva dzakaoma muupenyu: vabereki vasinganzwisisi, manzwiro ekuderera. Ushamwari hwevechiduku hunogona kukura kuva rudo.
- Mukuru - dzimwe nguva uku ndiko ushamwari hwakaumbwa muhucheche uye hwakasimbiswa pamakore. Shamwari dzakadaro dzinoziva zvese zvinoputirana uye zvakabuda kune mumwe nemumwe - ushamwari hwakadaro chinhu chisingawanzoitiki, saka chinokosha zvikuru. Kune mhando dzakasiyana dzehukama ushamwari: chimiro, shamwari, bhizinesi.
- Ushamwari hwemurume - nheyo dzakavakwa pamusoro pake, nziyo dzakawanda dzinoimbwa uye mabhuku makuru akanyorwa. Ihwo hukama hwemurume, hwakaratidzwa zvakanaka mufirimu yeSoviet "Musketeers vatatu": kubatana pamwe chete, kugamuchirwa kwemunhu zvakakwana nezvikanganiso zvake zvose, kuvimba uye kubatsira kunyange mumamiriro ezvinhu apo shamwari iri mumatambudziko kuburikidza nemhosva yake pachayo. Kazhinji mumadzimai, ushamwari hwemurume hunokonzera kusanzwisisa uye godo.
- Ushamwari hwevakadzi - varume vanotenda kuti mune zvakasikwa hazvipo. Chii chishamwari chavakadzi chinogona kuonekwa pamuenzaniso wefirimu "Sex and City".
Nokuti zvepabonde zvakanakisisa muhukama zvakakosha:
- kunzwira tsitsi nekunzwira tsitsi;
- kutendeseka;
- kutendeseka;
- mumwe maonero pamusoro pemamiriro acho;
- hukama hwakavanzika;
- mukana wekuwana rubatsiro runodiwa chero nguva ipi zvayo masikati kana usiku.
Chii chaicho ushamwari hwechokwadi?
Zvinorevei kuva shamwari - kwete kungoungana pamwechete nokunwa kofi pamwe chete nguva nenguva, asi kwechokwadi? Vanhu vasina shamwari vanowanzonzwa kusurukirwa kwakanyanya uye kushuva. Ihwo hukama chaihwo huri munharaunda yekubatanidzwa uye kufarira kwechokwadi kune wadikanwa, apo shamwari dzinogoverana zvose kusuruvara uye mufaro. Mifungiro yakafanana - imwe yemafungiro ekuberekwa patsva inotsanangura chiitiko chehukama kuburikidza nekubatanidzwa kwezvikamu muupenyu hwekare. Mwoyo inoedza kuti iwane mumwe uye gare gare, pavanosangana, kune manzwiro akasimba avanozivana kwenguva yakareba, pavakasangana kwekutanga.
Chii chinoita ushamwari kupa munhu?
Ushamwari muhupenyu hwomunhu humwe hwepamusoro-soro hunoenda nemhuri. Shamwari igirazi umo iwe unoona kufungidzira kwako. Ndezvipi zvinodiwa ushamwari hunowedzera kuhukama:
- kuwirirana pamwe kweunhu hwakanaka hwomumwe nomumwe;
- manzwiro ekutsigirwa;
- kufara kunofadza;
- kubatsirwa pamwe chete uye kunowedzera munguva dzakaoma;
- rinodzidzisa kusava noudyire uye kuzvipira;
- mafungiro akanaka .
Chii chinonyanya kukoshesa ushamwari?
Pamusana pehukama hwakawanda zvinonzi, asi sei kuziva kuti chii chinonyanya kukosha muukama uye ndiani shamwari chaiye? Munhu mumwe nomumwe ane maonero ake pamusoro pehutungamiri hwehutano hwehukama: kune mumwe munhu kutendeseka nemukana wekuvimba zvivande zvose, izvo zvinowanzoitirwa vakadzi, zvevarume - izvi zvinowanikwa pamwe chete: kubata, kufamba-famba, kusaka. Nzira inowanikwa yehukama ndeyekusingaperi kusingaperi: kunaka, mutsa, uye kufarira kune umwe neumwe.
Ungadzidza sei kuva shamwari?
Kune vamwe vanhu, dambudziko rekuoma kwekuvaka hukama nevanhu nderechokwadi uye, semugumisiro, kusurukirwa kunoumbwa. Vanhu vazhinji vanoda kuva neshamwari dzepedyo, asi nokuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana havakwanisi kunyange kuchengetedza vese vanobatana. Nzira yekuva shamwari uye kune dzimwe mimwe mitemo yehukama? Masayendisiti ezvepfungwa anopa huwandu hwezvirongwa zvinobatsira kutanga kutaurirana nemunhu waunoda nekuvandudza hukama huri kukura kuva ushamwari, pane izvi unoda:
- kukunda kunyara uye kuziva;
- tora danho rekuzivana nemaoko avo;
- kuva munhu akazaruka;
- edza kunzwira tsitsi ;
- dzidza kuteerera kune umwe;
- kutsigira mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma;
- kunzwisisa kuti kusimbiswa kwehukama kunoda nguva refu, kushanda uye basa.
Chii chinoparadza ushamwari?
Chiyero chehukama chinoitika nenguva. Vanhu pamwe chete vanopinda mune dzimwe nhanho dzehupenyu nemuedzo wakasiyana-siyana, kwete vose vari vapenyu. Zvimwe zvikonzero nei kunyange zvisungo zvakasimba kune ushamwari zvingawira:
- Iko kunomuka rudo rwehama kune mumwe munhu.
- Imwe yevadzidzi iri kukurumidza kuva mupfumi, yechipiri zvakaoma kugamuchira imwe nzvimbo yemagariro evanhu.
- Kutengesa uye kusarura. Zvikonzero zvinogona kunge zvakasiyana-asi zvinoitika (shamwari yakanakisisa / musikana inobvisa mudzimai / murume).
Mabhuku pamusoro pehukama
Kukosha kweshamwari kwakarumbidzwa nevanyori nevanyori. Nzira yekushamwaridzana nevanhu uye kuva shamwari chaiye - zvidzidzo zvinokosha zvinogona kudzidziswa kubva mumabhuku ezvinyorwa zvekare uye zvemazuva ano:
- "Musketeers Vatatu." A. Dumas . - Bhuku rinotaura nezve rudo, kuzvipira kuzvikudza uye mazano. Iri basa ndiro rakanyanya kuvezwa munyika yose.
- "Mwoyo Yevatatu". D. London . - Nhoroondo pamusoro pekuzvipira nekuda kweshamwari uye kuti hapana pfuma inotsiva rudo neshamwari.
- "Vanun'una vatatu," Erich Maria Remarque . - Bhuku pamusoro pemanzwiro echokwadi, echokwadi, ayo munyori akanyatsotaurira.
- "Jane Eyre. S. Bronte . " - Kuzvipira uye ushamwari pakati pevanhu vatsva, vakakurira kuva rudo.
- "Gati regwagwa rinonzi Bob . " J. Bowen. - Ushamwari, pakati pevanhu nemhuka, inobatsira kukunda kushungurudzika kwenguva refu kwaJakobho nekudhakwa.